5 ways to strengthen your bond with your child in 10 minutes a day

When I talk about journalling with parents, I often hear the same thing: “I love the idea, but I just don’t have the time.” 

My god, this was me. I get it. Between work, school, sport and the general whirlwind of life, ten minutes can feel like a luxury. But you don’t need hours to build a strong connection with your child. In fact, some of the most meaningful moments I’ve had with my kids have taken less than ten minutes.

Here are five small-but-mighty ways to make those minutes count.

1. Start a Pass-Back Journal

Yes, this one gets top billing for a reason. It’s a simple, low-pressure way to connect without squeezing another “appointment” into your schedule. Leave a note, a question, or a doodle. They’ll respond when they’re ready, and you’ll have created an ongoing conversation that fits into the cracks of your day. Of course it's even better if you have Ink Link's Pass-Back Journal (had to be said!). 

2. Share a “micro-ritual”

It could be a silly handshake before school (my husband and son just started this and it gives my son a real spring in his step as he leaves for school), a quick cup of herbal tea together before bed, or five minutes of lying on the grass cloud-watching. Rituals don’t have to be elaborate, they just need to be consistent enough to become your thing.

3. Ask a better question

Instead of “How was your day?” (which usually gets you “Fine” or "Bad"), try something unexpected:

• “What was the funniest thing that happened today?”

• “If you could re-do one moment from today, what would it be?”

• “What’s something you wish we could do together tomorrow
  

Better questions invite better answers, and sometimes, bigger conversations.

4. Tell them something you’ve noticed

Kids light up when they feel seen. Take a minute to say, “I noticed how patient you were with your brother today” or “I saw you trying something tricky at soccer and I was proud of you.” It’s quick, specific and builds their sense of self.

5. End the day with gratitude

Before lights out, share one thing you each enjoyed about the day. It could be a moment you shared, a kindness someone showed, or something completely silly. It’s a gentle way to close the day on a positive note and model appreciation.

Why this works
Connection is built in small, repeated moments. My kids and I have shared everything from our happiest memories to our silliest snack inventions in our journal... and each exchange, no matter how small, adds another thread to the bond between us.

Even on the busiest days, you have ten minutes. And ten minutes, used well, can make a lifetime of difference.